Effective Communication

Many of us long for true love. We hope our other half can understand us completely and support us unconditionally. However, real life doesn’t alway match with our wishes and conflict can arise in our everyday life - often due to mis-communication.  How can you communicate with your other half effectively? 

Trust and Love

This is the foundation. Without trust and love, it’s like to build a house on the sand. However, trust and love doesn’t guarantee a loving relationship.

Active listening

Listening is the key to effective communication. Active listening means you truly understand what the other person is saying without thinking about yourself. Give them your full attention without distraction. Put your phone down, be present. Have eye contact with your loved one and listen intuitively. 

“Over” communication but not nagging

George Bernard Shaw said: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place”. I can’t tell you how many times that I fell into this trap. By “Over” communication, we can ensure communication did happen and the right piece of information is delivered at the right time. Even if it's just a confirmation of “Did I mention….”

The 5 love languages

Understand and talk in their language. I recommend that a couple do the test so that they each understand the other’s language and accommodate. 

Add humor

Life is short, have some laughter. Laughter is the best medicine. 

With Trust and Love as foundation, effective communication will help you to build a lasting loving relationship. Life is short, live, love and laugh. 

(BTW, the same strategy applies to parent-child relationship, working relationship (maybe not not the 5 love languages part) and other types of relationship )