How can I support you?

Are you longing for something more?

You are a woman or non-binary leader in technology. You are doing what you love, but you feel you can do more. You are passionate about what you do, but you may not be compensated properly. You like majority of the people you are interacting with, but someone pushes your button. You are a great leader, but the company you are working for doesn’t have good culture. Stay or leave? Change is constant in STEM, how can you keep up? Our life is full of competing choices and often conflicts. I want to support you to make conscious choices that you less likely would regret later.

At work, promotions pass by and you don’t even know why. There are circles that you feel hard to get in, or circles exist that you don’t even know. Decisions were made without your input or awareness. You are the only woman or non-binary at the table. You are interrupted by others. You have a great vision and strategy but your stakeholders don’t buy in. You wish your team can be more responsible and independent on their own. I was that person. With motivation, vision, strategy and perseverance, I cracked the promotion code and became a technology executive in a Fortune 25 company. I will share with you my S.T.E.A.M. promotion strategy.

Your energy is drained at the end of the day and all you want to do is to sit on the couch or go to bed, but you have to take care of the kids. You drive them to activities and then you have to worry about what’s for dinner. You have no idea what the book is about when reading to your kids and fall asleep while reading. I was that person. Now I have a BIG energy reservoir and rarely feel tired.

You wish your partner can help you more if you have someone to rely on. Or, you may have to face all the challenges in life by yourself and wish you have a shoulder to cry on. I was that person - a single mother raising young kids alone for more than a decade. Now I am happily married to my soulmate and we support each other unconditionally.

You tell yourself that you want to take care of your mind and body and do some exercise. Before you know it, you need to go to bed to catch some sleep so that life can go on the next day. You feel guilty that you didn’t do it (AGAIN!) and promise that you will do it tomorrow and the cycle repeats. Where is the TIME?! I was that person. Now I run races throughout the year. I ski at the Rocky Mountains. I dance at festivals. I read dozens of books each year. I write blogs regularly. I volunteer for the good causes. I have all the time I need.

Your kids grow into teenagers. They roll their eyes at you. They don’t want to talk to you because they don’t feel you understand them. You want to raise them to be responsible people. You show them the right principles with every opportunity you have. They are distant to you. You feel hurt and don’t know why this happens to you. You have done everything you could to raise them, so why do they not understand that and appreciate you? I was that person. Now, I have loving relationship with my kids, and they feel comfortable to talk to me about everything. I don’t judge them, and I don’t remember the last time I raised my voice.

Maybe you are an immigrant, life is miserable with both language and cultural barriers. Your dream is being crushed. The reality is forcing you to play small. You start to question yourself whether you made the right choice living in a different country. How can I ever be able to fit in without losing my own identity? I was that person. I became introverted temporarily. Now, I am a professional speaker, a member of National Speakers Association, and give speeches regularly to Fortune 500 companies and tech conferences to inspire the people around the world. I will show you the path to master communication skills that are critical to your success.

You wish life can be easier. You wish your influence can be bigger. You wish you can support more people. You volunteer here and there and feel exhausted and a lack of focus. I was that person. Now I am laser focused on supporting Women and Non-Binary in STEM become leaders they want to be and live a happier and more fulfilled life.

The only limits are the ones we put on ourselves, including the belief that the status quo cannot be changed. What are the ways that you are limited or unfulfilled?